If your idyll is a happy family and a successful career, you should understand that you will have only one thing in the first place. Nevertheless, a career with love can coexist… and very successfully. What to refuse – a career in favor of love or a relationship in favor of work? Let’s leave these subjects for melodramas. In real life, smart people learn to combine one with another.
Why are there difficulties?
You have long been seeking promotions or leadership positions, and all that time, your loved one has supported you and helped you. But suddenly, when you achieved what you wanted, it turned out that your relationship was cracked. And for a while, you think that you still have a wonderful relationship with a loved one, until your partner tells you that this is far from it.
Relationships can be spoiled for two reasons: either you are completely obsessed with a career and don’t give your loved one attention or your partner just envies you. Unfortunately, the second option is quite common because many people feel uncomfortable next to more successful significant others. What to do?
1. Talk to your loved one
In any case, you should explain to a loved one that he or she remains in the first place for you. Surely, your partner also has aspirations and dreams. Your task is to support but don’t overdo so that your sincere benevolence doesn’t lead to pity and sympathy. Clearly distribute the boundaries between family and career. When you come home, don’t think or talk about work. If you are very busy and you come home late, go out somewhere with your partner and just spend time together.
2. Be sure to give time for a loved one
You can even turn off your phone so that no one disturbs you. Try to devote your enough time to your soulmate. Don’t forget about common friends with whom you like to spend your free time. And try not to ignore the wishes and passions of your loved one. Remember, you will not earn all the money anyway and you can’t buy happiness for dollars. And no matter how interesting and exciting your career is, always leave a place for your close people in your life.
3. Determine what is more important to you
In order to find harmony between work and personal life, it is necessary to prioritize. The best way to achieve this is to sit down and write down the goals of your career and your family goals, based on personal values. What is more important to you? If you lose your job, you can always find another one. But if you lose your family, will the work still mean something? Think about it.
4. Do you work diligently or correctly?
Some people continue to work at home because they don’t have time to do everything on time. And smart people who work “correctly” transfer their work to another person. These are successful leaders who have achieved harmony in a family and at work. They spend as much time resting and enjoying life as they devote to their careers. Begin to trust people and give part of your obligations.
5. Find something interesting and exciting outside of work
Find an interesting hobby that will distract you from work. Sometimes people use work to hide from their loneliness and get rid of boredom. And some people just have not found something interesting and exciting yet, which can be spent on free time.